Do Christmas. That is all, really.
If it really was only one day of indulging, I don’t think we’d have much in the way of any serious problems surrounding Christmas. But we have a way of freaking out about the multitude of celebrations, with much food, drink, all sorts. And it causes much confusion and anxiety, for any number of reasons.
But my agenda is fitness and food based. As it stands, I don’t much care how much celebrating there is. If you try to distance yourself from the concept of shame, in general terms, and in an immediate sense, this is helpful. It helps you to behave more truly if you are not burdened by shame, when it comes to eating and training. Shame feels like a useful tool when you seek to restrain yourself, but it’s just as likely to shoot you in the foot, and in the long term... oh, it’s just such a head-fuck. But if you can slowly start to distance yourself from it, you needn’t worry; you won’t fall off or on any wagons, instead you’ll just start to naturally sort out your shit.
So rather than worry about what has passed, or what is to come, try to behave in the moment truly to how you wish to behave. This does not mean to restrict excessively, or to indulge excessively, or to moderate excessively, only to have a true and real experience of whatever’s going on. Yeah. So... yeah, I think it really is as simple as it sounds. Which is not very.
If you have been eating a lot, right now you may feel like eating less, because you’re satisfied, or your hunger is moderate. If you’ve been restricting, and trying to “be good”, clearly you still need to eat – we all need to eat, this is a given – so if you’re hungry you should do so. I think it’s important to participate in such a way as to satisfy yourself, and also to meet your obligations.
It sounds boring, but in the end, my advice is the same as it always has been. Try to be unburdened by concepts, and be true to how you want to live your life. Whether you indulge or not is nobody else’s business. All people need to eat. Eat how you want, train how you want, participate in your own way. You don’t need to turn Christmas into some sort of bizarre festival of shame.
The secret is that Christmas is only an exaggerated version of every other time of the year: how do we be at peace with ourselves, make choices we are happy with, amidst a sea of chaos and expectation?
I don’t mean to trivialise, or oversimplify. But it should not be overcomplicated either. It’s good to eat, it’s good to train, it’s good to celebrate, and it’s good to rest.
Do all of these things, in ways that are meaninful and satisfying to you.