What’s wrong with modern fitness training? We take desperate people, with low self-worth, who've been ostracised and bullied, and then tell them the path to success (and happiness and improved self-esteem) is the path of obedience, not the path of self-discovery. People seek to lose weight because they want to be free of their vulnerabilities. But even if weight loss occurs, the vulnerabilities remain, because when you take a weight-centred approach, the judgement and hatred remain.
You see it all the time at gyms: if I can remain muscular or toned, and lean, then I’m strong. I’m not vulnerable any more. I’m not weak. So we equate fatness to weakness, to sloth, but it’s a misnomer. It’s not that fat makes you vulnerable – it’s that training doesn’t make you invulnerable. Welcome to the human condition.
And so it is revealed: the only way to be strong is to accept that weakness is a reality. We are strong not in spite of our vulnerabilities, but because of them. Acceptance is what frees us.
And the path to not hating yourself is not through physical change, flagellation or purification, it is through the practice of not hating yourself. Every time you tell yourself you’re weak or unworthy you make it worse. Every time you tell yourself you are worthy, you make it better. Hold no grudges for your negative self-talk. As with all things: practice leads to mastery. Practice telling yourself you are enough, right now, as you are.
And see the chaos of the world revealed.
It isn’t a hollow affirmation. I hate affirmations. It’s a statement of truth, that one day, you’ll realise. Telling yourself you’re weak only feels true because it’s exploitative. Just because it’s hurtful, doesn’t mean it’s true. The truth is that even though we are worthy, we still don’t get what we want. The world doesn’t care about obedience. The fact that we suffer does not mean we are deficient - it only means we’re human, and alive. But in time, through life, it might not get easier, but we get better at it.