You might have heard that the secret to beauty lies in imperfection. But of course, if it’s what makes you beautiful… it isn’t an imperfection. And in this, we can see how askew the whole standard has become. It’s not the things between us that are the same, that make us unique.
And for my money, beauty lies in character, not in sameness.
Modern fitness culture would have you believe that beauty is fragile and temporal, that it is not resistant to age, that it decays, that it does not persevere across weight fluctuations, that we fight an inevitable decline – but to my mind, beauty transforms – it does not diminish. It changes as you age, it matures with you, and it transforms as your weight shifts in one way or another. But it can also surprise you.
I heard one time that the story of our lives is written upon our faces. You can’t rush that, or emphasize it by living harder. Yes, you live. But do you live hard?
Because we all possess character, and your character is not dependent on some arbitrary, standardized hierarchy. More often than not, it is comprised of the things you cannot change, that you take for granted or don’t even realise exist.
What’s scary is this: if beauty exists naturally in you as you are, what is there that you can play into? How do you make people like you more, if you don’t know what to do, what to work at, to make yourself more beautiful? What can you accentuate, what body parts can you train? What if beauty does exist, but it does so in spite of your efforts, and it is not under your control?