This is supposed to teach us something, apparently? The value of thinness? The truth than nobody wants to be fat?
Yes. Nobody wants to be fat. Am I supposed to believe that the solution is to try to make everyone thin?
You could win the Nobel Peace Prize, and if you were fat, people would still call you lazy.
You may think you’re upset about your fat. You might think you feel fat.
No. You don’t.
Fat is not a feeling – fat is emotionally neutral. Fat doesn’t make you feel a thing, stigma on the other hand, stigma does.
The way to end hatred is not to make everyone look the same. That only increases hatred.
Every now and then I’m talking with someone about body acceptance, and they’re all like – that’s good for thin people, but y’know... what about the real fatties?
If I thought everyone should look the same, this would be a whole different blog. That should be apparent.
You might feel shameful, unappreciated, or a failure – you might feel the weight of prejudice upon your shoulders, and you might be made to feel that it’s your fault. You might feel that your life is not under your control, because you might buy into the lie that fat is a choice, just as one might buy into the lie that homosexuality is a choice. They’re not the same lie, but neither are they truth.
That which exploits one’s fears and insecurities must never be mistaken for truth. It carries weight not because it’s true, but because it’s exploitative. It’s designed to carry weight, and it’s designed to fool us with mystical truth-like-feeling.
We are not very good at distinguishing between one thing that carries weight and another thing that carries weight.
One must constantly remind oneself – that which exploits your fears and doubts is not truth. If we don’t remind ourselves of this, the lies wear us down and we succumb to that which masquerades as truth, but in reality amounts to nothing more than hate and fear mongering.
Who profits from exploiting your fears? And who profits from speaking the truth?
People exploit each other for sex and affection by making each other work for approval.
Or, of course, there’s that other option. Maybe she doesn’t know fat, but she knows hatred; she was hurt because someone was being hurtful.
Read Feeling Fat.