I saw part of a documentary about mountain climbers, one who’d been in an accident and lost the use of his legs. He said you can’t be angry, because when you’re angry you don’t take care of yourself.
It was about these guys who are just climbing for joy. He found a way to get back into it. They weren’t training to purify themselves or make themselves adequate, better or superior. Just because. It’s inspirational not because they’ve found a way to motivate their training – not because they’re active (and if they can climb, surely I can get my ass to the gym, c’mon – I really need to psyche myself up) – it’s inspirational because they’re naturally living their lives, motivated by joy – not fear and judgement. It’s not about the activity. It’s about not living in fear.
Fear is the worst motivator. It’s effective, so we use it all the time. But it makes you feel like crap. Love and joy, all the way. Something worthwhile.
I can be pretty angry about the state of the fitness industry, and the health industry in broader terms. If I wasn’t angry, I mightn’t have been as active as I have been. But anger isn’t a pure motivator either... You can get stuff done... But where does it lead? And what are you angry for, or against? And what’s the difference between the motivation to care for yourself, and the motivation to work for societal change? If you do care about yourself, do you need motivation to care for yourself? Or does that just work itself out naturally – because love begets love? And if you’re angry, and struggling to take care of yourself, what can you achieve in a broader context? What does anger beget?
Buddhists say hatred ceases not by hatred – hatred ceases only by love.
So how can you hate yourself healthy?